my surroundings dictate how the 'touch-factor' will scale appropriately from 'no, not ever!' all the way to 'hold me tight until i relax'; neither extreme has indicated to me whether or not there are some underlying feelings at work here; basically, when i sense a high degree of trust then my immediate vigilence against touch becomes less; when the environment sucks the life out of me and i can't think straight, then my walls and defenses are hightened and i don't care who you are, don't touch me.