i can see by reading that this is quite tricky. i was in love once, or at least my interpretation of it. it wasn't that way in the beginning. these feelings build over time through actions, sharing, listening and understanding. now my doctor would say that i was projecting myself onto my boyfriend and being in love with myself. i made sacrifices but they were in order to keep that connection tended so that i could get more of what i desired. the relationship lasted for a little more than a year and there was only one time a disagreement occurred. i killed it's escalation with an iron fist and it never happened again. most would say that there is something wrong with that. but if you give someone everything they could ever need or want the result is a perfect orchestration and the closest approximation to being in love.