Thanks, that really helped. It's hard for me because I work with children as well, and hate when they are not treated with just as much respect, if not more, than adults. I believe they have so much wisdom, and deserve to be worked with, not at.
Probably what made it harder for her was that she had started the process of trusting my counselor, and was surprised at how things turned out. She thinks of good as weak, and bad as strong, so if I were to start challenging those thoughts, I would start with that idea in general, and do nothing with her. I also agree that there is no such thing as a bad child, it is just poor choices, or choices that make a problem bigger instead of smaller.
She automatically responded to T as she would a bully, and so your comment about making bad choices will help, I think.
Thank you!