I think you choose who to get close to and who to keep at arms length. I have people in real life I love romantically and non-romantically. The therapist fits in neither category for me. I see no need for the therapist to do so for me, and truthfully I don't understand the idea of it where therapy is concerned. But if it helps others to feel it or think they feel it or struggle with it or be told by a therapist it is there, who am I to tell them they are wrong?