It does sound bad! and as if he could have narc traits or even full blow NPD - you have every right to be angry - I don't know how you have survived it for so long - although saying that I am currently in a relationship with an unNPD or whatever - I think I should have walked away ages ago but I suppose I stay because I love him and for the good times - sometimes I just don't know why I stay! My heart goes out to you.