Same here. There are so many things that I can't do or say because I am worried about how it will affect someone else - will it make them sad, or angry, or will it take up their time that they could use in other ways... will they think I'm selfish or lazy?

I spend loads of time helping other people out or at least offering to. But asking someone to help me is very difficult.

And I live as close to society's general expectations as I can. Not necessarily because I want to... just because I don't want to stand out. I don't want people focused on me.