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Originally Posted by AppalachianAxis
Thanks for the input. I appreciate first-hand experience and advice!
I guess what I'm really anxious about is, frankly, just how, er, sexual the whole experience is.
By that I mean, does it tend to be, well, lewd in any way? I'm extremely uncomfortable talking about sexual things but I need a T who's going to be very frank and open with me, but I don't want this to get... senusal. I know that's probably a bit of a paranoid and invalid concern, I'm sure that no matter their profession, Therapists of all types are very professional, but I'm never the less till a bit aprehensive.
I also need this to go a bit deeper than strictly superficial sexual matters, this is a problem that has found a way to permeate most aspects of my life. It's a sexual issue, yes. But it's also much more than that.
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lol (laughing because I felt the same way at first)
no its not lewd, you dont take off your clothes and "do it" or anything like that.
its talking about anatomy (body parts) why they react/perform the way they do if your purpose for sex therapy is you needing educational information/materials.
its about talking about positions if you are having trouble in versatility/variety /boredom, trying to get pregnant,....
its about safety/hygeine if your problem is constant infections that are interfering with your sex life
its about foreplay if that area is something you are having a problem with.
its about how to be self nurturing, calming, setting the atmosphere if anxiety /being uncomfortable is the problem...
heres a few examples...
being a sexual abuse survivor at one point I was afraid all sex hurts. I didnt know it could be enjoyable. my gal and I would get so far and I would freeze up, dissociate, make to do lists in my head while in the sexual moment.
my gal (now my wife) and I went to my therapist who also deals with couples/sex therapy. she taught us about the body parts, how to recognize when my awareness was slipping out of the moment and into my head, having safety words that mean stop no matter what for both my wife and I, she showed us an educational film that was tastefully done, not like the porn stuff you can find anywhere, and we talked about non sexual ways and sexual ways to be with each other. we also had homework to do, lol yes homework. since I thought sex was nothing but pain I first had to learn that sex can be enjoyable by learning how to masturbate by myself, little by little and stopping anytime I felt uncomfortable.
basically you go in, tell the therapist what problem you are having and then your sessions are based on what will help you fix that problem.