Thank you
I think that is a good idea about the letter. I will let her know I have it, and H and I will decide when to give it to her based on her reaction. I must say that it is such a relief (not just for H but for me) to have someone see the awesomeness in her. I work with kids and my favourite to work with have always been the angry 8-11 year olds. I admire their strength so much, and find that it is relatively easy for me to work through the process with them. Most just need their emotions/feelings validated. It always makes me hopeful when I work with an angry child because I know they haven't given up, even if they say they do. Their anger is proof that they still care. It's the apathetic children that worry me more so than the ones who are still willing to cause issues for people. .... sorry I could go on about kids for hours
I was very happy to have found the "you said I hear' method because too often people feel attacked when I explain what I feel like they're saying. This way it isn't blaming anyone, it's just explaining the difference. I hope it works for you!