Tech, I'm sorry. It does sound as if you have your hands full. How have you coped with your husband's illness in the past. I mean, I know he just got the diagnosis a year ago (actually you can't really diagnose Aspergers in an adult, but that's a different discussion) but he's been this way all his life. So, how did you cope when you were dating or first married? You might want to try and use some of those tools again. Even though you say he has quit trying since his DX, he must have had some issues to get the Dx in the first place. Can you all go to counseling together?