You probably can not make this person change to any major degree.

Do you have low self esteem?

It sounds like your partner cannot accept responsibility for things or is overly critical or something. A partner should be consistently supportive, not excessively critical.

I don't know, but if this is happening all the time, he may some sort of disorder (personality or other mental disorder).

If your partner is overall treating you in a significantly inappropriate way, then a normal person would not accept that.