I really don't know how to answer that as bpd feelings/thinking is all I know. I guess I don't trust my feelings because they are innacurate. I know that if my husband didn't care he wouldn't have stayed married to me so long...20 years. I try to look at the facts w/o emotions and sometimes it helps. And I try to get out of my head which is difficult. I just know that I can't dwell on the negative feelings I have because it's never as bad as I think it is. And welcome. I'm new too, and newly diagnosed. It's been a trip. feel free to pm me if you want to talk.
Kate