I used to read threads on here and wonder how people had Ts who didn't show up for a scheduled appointment without any notice, but it happened to me last week.

I left work early (as per my arrangement to due so every other week), drove across town in bad traffic and waited. I left my phone at home that morning before work and had no way to reach T. I see her at an office where she rents a room from another T for one or two days a week, so I knew no one there would have my T's number (plus they were all in session).

At first I thought there might be an accident or a lot of traffic. I decided to wait up to 15 minutes past the session start time and she never came. I could feel my insecurities rising up and the tears welling up as I drove home back across town to grab a few things before leaving town as planned. I thought that I wasn't important to her, that she just forgot me, that I don't matter, etc. But, I also considered that maybe something happened and she tried to reach me or that she couldn't.

When I made it back home to my phone (with no messages), I really began to feel upset and texted her about it. She replied that she was so sorry and that she and her whole family had been sick all week and she forgot (since we don't meet every week). I felt upset about it, but understood and after a little wallowing, I got ready and hit the road.

I am really proud of how I handled the situation. I was able to talk myself out of reading more into it. I felt pretty hurt, acknowledged that, felt it, and was able to move on and enjoy my weekend. I know that a year or two ago, something like this would have unraveled me. I will say that I do feel a little lost trust in my T, and I know that we can discuss it and work through it. I'm not thrilled with going through this situation, but I am so happy with how much I've grown