I think emotions for T aren't always simple and can be very complex. I have two kinds of feelings for my T and I can tell the difference. There is the transference stuff which is incredibly powerful and involves over-reacting to certain things in a really dramatic way. This has been extremely painful, but really useful in therapy, and understanding these emotions has helped a lot with my understanding of myself and my RL relationships.

At the other end of the spectrum, I care a lot for this person. He's a good man, who has made it his life's work to help others as he also does a lot of pastoral counseling. He's a rock for a lot of people. He does a good amount of self-disclosure, so after almost 3 years of therapy I know quite a bit about him. He's certainly not perfect!!! But I care very deeply about him as a human being which goes way beyond the physical attraction.

So .... there's two ends of the spectrum, with a whole lot of grey area inbetween where I don't know which the feelings belong to. I know I'm rambling but this is difficult to deal with. It helps me to write about it.

But thanks, moonlit sky, for the article. It was very helpful.