Have you been in therapy at all, tried any meds to help? Therapy was my lifesaver from my anxiety. Took many years and I'm still ditzy and forget stuff (go blank) and get anxious when presented suddenly with new things, etc. but I can right myself pretty quickly and work on whatever is facing me, realize the sky is not falling or likely to today :-) Both my therapist's and husband's support and laid-backness helped me enormously. That's how I learned the sky was not falling, realizing my therapist never seemed anxious so either she was crazy or the sky was not actually going to fall like it seemed to me. I went with the sky not falling :-) But my husband is very "solid" and his calmness helps me when I'm in a dither and confused. Giver yourself time outs and think of solid things like your boyfriend and daughter (and go hug a tree :-) when you're anxious, that helps me. If you're worried about your daughter becoming anxious, find her some solid relatives/friends/activities away from you so she gets a balanced "view"?