Candy, I agree about cutting your losses early. IMHO it is not necessary to spend 10 sessions with a therapist to see if you're a good fit. After one or two sessions you can pretty much tell. I usually can tell after one session.

My very good T and I were discussing this problem of mine, way back..... I said if I say no to another person I'm hurting the other person, and I don't feel strong/courageous enough to say yes. She said to me that it's a choice I make: do what I want and have the other person be angry, or do what the other wants me to do and I be the one angry.
I really heard her and whenever I have a situation like this I focus on this thought: Do I do what pleases me and risk having the other person angry, or do I please the other person and risk having myself be angry. With this thought in mind I've been able to stand up for myself so many times...