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Originally Posted by Claritytoo
My t has reminded me that what other parts say is part of me also. But I don't get that at all. Some of the others say and do things that I would never say or do so how can that be me. We have the original in common but that seems to be all. So I think we need her to come to session so we can have a more objective of us and how we function. Thanks again for you response.
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I know its hard to understand. my treatment providers used a grapefruit as an example to explain it to me....
the grapefruit is one whole fruit. its made up of a skin (the main body/shell) and inside there are many different segments/slices all wrapped up with in an individual wall /skin.
each part (each segment inside the grapefruit) is a part of the grapefruit.
now when you look closer at each segment of the grapefruit you will see inside each grapefruit there are many little droplet shaped segments. each one of those little droplet shaped segments are part of the grapefruit just like inside yo, there are many different parts of you called memories, emotions, ....
if you pick up one droplet shaped segment by itself what do you have....a minute part of the wedge shaped segment, and a minute part of a whole grapefruit.
if you pick up a wedge shaped segment whats in your hand...a part of the grapefruit and many droplet shaped segments inside the wedge shaped segment..
if you pick up a whole grapefruit what do you have in your hand....a round whole grapefruit that is made up of many wedge shaped slices of grapefruit, which is made up of many droplet shaped segments.
everything the skin, the wedges, the droplet shaped segements are parts of the whole grapefruit.
now put that idea into a person...a person is their body (the grapefruit), and many parts inside the body (grapefruit wedges) and each part of this person has their own parts (the droplet shaped segments) that make up who and what they are.
like the grapefruit and the segments you are all part of the whole.
Yes I know that you may feel like you need your host to be aware of you all and be present during therapy but until the host is ready to handle things you all may have to just keep on keeping on doing things for her.
example take psych central...can you make others here be like you and do what you want them to do...no. in life we cant control others we can only control ourselves.
right now its not possible for you and the host to work together someday there may come a time when your host is able to do what you want her to do. but right now your host has other things they are working on. things that are important to her. just like you are doing whats important to you.
my suggestion talk with your treatment providers. maybe they can help your host to become more comfortable. While she does what she needs to do during her time out and in control. and maybe theres a way in which your treatment providers can help you all feel safer when your host is dealing with those hard to handle things that are triggering you all.
example sometimes treatment providers and their clients do a therapy technique of creating a safe place inside where the alters can go and be safe and happy while the host deals with triggering things. talk with your treatment providers maybe this is something they are willing to do with you all