I'm glad you came here and posted. That's a huge step. It sounds like you are dealing with supporting your husbands emotional needs and your own....that's a lot. I can understand where u are about being petite and it showing easy on your frame- I am the same way but not sure what advice to give you other than maybe talk to someone and see if you can understand why food makes you feel better than actually 'feeling.' Not sure if that makes any sense at all. Hang in there....