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Originally Posted by rainbow8
I've discovered that a T will like you if you are honest about yourself and work hard in therapy. They want to help, and if you aren't truthful, it makes it harder for them to do their job, and therefore they will like you less, not more.
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This now makes loads of sense to me - my T has been saying things that seem to mean exactly what you're saying here Rain - he seems to like it when I'm being authentic, honest, 'present' as he calls it, in terms of opening up about who I really am and how I really feel and think - quite a turn around for me as I'm still pretty much convinced that of course neither he, nor anyone else (including myself), could like the real me.
Nerak67, maybe you could talk about this to your T, without having to suddenly expose who you think you really are, get a better feel for the fact that your T probably really would like you for who you are and not so much for how you think you ought to present yourself in a 'better' light. No shame in seeking reassurance and safety and no shame at all in being anxious about it
