There is a book you may want to read. I understand it is wonderful though I have not read it myself. It is call Burn Brightly without Burning Out by Richard Biggs. You can find it on Amazon.com. The reviews there support what I have heard about it.
Zen

<font color=green>But the implicit and usually unconscious bargain we make with ourselves is that, yes, we want to be healed, we want to be made whole, we're willing to go some distance, but we're not willing to question the fundamental assumptions upon which our way of life has been built, both personally and societally.--Bill Plotkin, Soulcraft