Wow, all my best friends and people I love have BPD.

I live with two women they have BPD.

Oh and I have BPD (but I'm a guy).

I'll tell you what I have learned that I think may be of use to you. I have been diagnosed since I was 13, and diagnosed many times indeed. I am 38 now.

* Having good social supports is very important. You want people in your life that are supportive of you, see the good in you, and are tolerant of your problems. You want to be VERY careful with relationships, cause well I have seen many BPD women get involved with the wrong sort of guys (abusive). Get rid of anyone in your life that is excessively critical or negative towards you.

* Avoid drugs and alcohol. Don't abuse any drugs to feel good, this can end of destroying the lives entirely of people with BPD.

* I personally think too much emphasis is put on therapy at the moment. Therapy has its place, but I think its sort of a "trend" that medication is not used much. Antidepressants in most cases appear useless but low doses of what are called "atypical nueroleptics" or "atypical anti-psychotics" can be helpful in some cases. However there is a definite risk of side effects that needs to be taken into account, and the dose needs to be on the low side. I personally take 150mg per day of a drug called Solian (amisulpride), which is certainly very helpful. However no drug is going to be like a miracle to you. Zyprexa around 2.5mg - 5mg is good, but it too often causes weight gain via massive appetite increase. It makes you tired at this but this goes away.

Benzodiazepines like valium or xanax are VERY bad for people with BPD, these drugs can make people with BPD go NUTS.

* Work on having a positive self image. If you treat people well, then you should value yourself. Being a good friend to those you care about, is the most important thing I personally believe. You need to learn to like yourself. So many BPD problems come from a lack of self esteem and negative self image.

* Reduce stress in you life. Do what it takes to keep away from putting too much pressure on yourself. People with BPD have trouble with too many pressure/stress.

* It takes time to recover from BPD. It is a slow process, not something that happens over night. But there is strong evidence, that with a positive mindset, and working on your problems, that as you get older, things will get better.

Best wishes!