My mother died 9 months ago, and I haven't been to her grave site yet, even though it's only a mile away. Is this normal?!? My dad is coming to town tomorrow, and wants to go there with me...but I don't know if I can go yet. But I haven't let on to him that I'm struggling. I was the one who had to be strong through my mom's illness and then her death...so I suppose I should just suck it up and go.