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Old Oct 16, 2013, 11:14 PM
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Originally Posted by RMDL75 View Post
If it was truly up to me, I wouldn't WANT to wear, but it's hardwired...
A part of me feels I should just accept it for what it is... It's just a part of me, and I truly enjoy it.
I tell myself all the time that it's hurting no one, and that there is no harm in it.
Exactly. It's your thing. I think you should accept yourself. It is harmless. We all have weird things about ourselves, if we admit it, I think.

However, many people have no interest in fetishes. (eg, myself.) Even though I think of myself as openminded and that I would be able to accept my partner's weird hardwired thing, doesn't mean it is the first thing I want to hear about, or something to casually hear about. I've known several people into fetishes that seem to enjoy telling people about it for shock value, or I don't know why. So hearing about one more from someone is a mega turnoff. Just saying your partner may have had the same experience as me.

I'd say take your time, be cautious and safe, finding out what your partner thinks about fetishes in general first. The nice thing is it seems you just want to be accepted. You don't want to insist your partner get as into it as you are. So, really, there's no rush, right? Total intimacy takes time, years, and some people are never going to be ready for it. Tread lightly.
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