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Old Jan 06, 2007, 05:21 AM
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it sounds like it is hard to know what the therapist was intending.

it is possible that the therapist was intending on helping your girlfriend calm down and relax a little (sounds like she was upset about something).

it is also possible that the therapist was making a little bit of a move on your girlfriend.

it is impossible to say which interpretation is correct, really. future encounters should sort that out, however.

it sounds quite good that the therapist noticed that your girlfriend was feeling uncomfortable about the bodily contact and apologised for making her feel uncomfortable and backed off.

if the therapist attempts to pressure your girlfriend into letting her massage her or touch her then alarm bells would ring for me... some (largely cranks) might think that that is theraputic but they would decidedly be the outliers in the profession...

if the therapist attempts to talk to her about why she felt uncomfortable etc... that could be a way in to talking about stuff...

some legitimate therapists do indeed use touch to good effect. it is thus impossible to say whether the therapist is dodgey or not on the basis of that encounter...

it is a fact that your girlfriend didn't appreciate that, however. and thus it is a fact that the therapist should respect that and alter their behaviour accordingly.

personally... i'm not a touchy feely type and i'd get the hell out of there... but then i have a tendency to run when things are perfectly safe... i just know that i need firm boundaries at arms length. and those boundaries don't sound at arms length to me...