You must be fooling yourself, then. No one can be truly happy alone. Humans are social and sexual creatures. It is our instincts. When you say that women like people with good confidence, self image, social skills, etc, I agree, but only in the sense that MOST women want this. Not ALL women want this. Some women are already confident by themselves and don't need the guy to be taking charge. Most women are of the phlegmatic personality type, so it does appear to us that ALL women want these things, but its not entirely true. I have met women in my life, one in particular in high school that I felt I really connected with, and she was confident, had good self-image, she was driven. I am the opposite, and opposites attract, so naturally I felt connected to her. While they are rare to find, there are women who are confident and don't need their mate to be. They take charge more than the man does. It is society that has imposed this huge image on us that women should be dominated by men, and controlled by men, and that the man takes charge in the relationship, but it is not all true. It is very very often true, but not always. Anyway, I'm suffering because it is EXTREMELY hard for a shy guy with no confidence and no self-esteem to find a girl. I need a controlling woman who will be the dominant one in the relationship. I had absolutely HORRIBLE social skills when I was in high school (well I still do), but she (the girl I was talking about) accepted me for who I was, I was quiet, sensitive, but understanding and easy-going. While I had horrible social skills, she took the time to listen to my soft-spoken voice to understand what I was saying. I asked her out on Valentine's day, but she said "but you didn't get me anything", which basically means, she wanted me to be a provider for her and I failed to do that. I haven't felt connected to anyone since.