Hermit, my sentiments exactly. I think his request is unreasonable. the computer is something he doesn't like and he wants to impose his control and set these limits for this family.

I so grately fear it is gonna come down to "Do it or I will no longer pay the internet bill" or if I fight him on this he is gonna say "You feel so strongly about the computer, you choose me or the computer." He is just so jealous and wants ultimate control.

I am in a place mentaly he doesn't understand. I I am holding on by threads. I have been working on overcoming rape, spousal abuse, and now unresolved child sexual abuse. It has been a long painful year and a half, and I am starting to figure out what it is that that helps me get up and keep my head up through put the day. It is the continued support from my friends here at PC.

I went from being a hermit (no pun intended HERMIT ) to being a hermit with friends from the saftey of my home. and now that I have made that change for the better I am not willing to go back.

I just don;t know how this will play out, and if my compromise is not enough and things come down to leaving what will I do.