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Originally Posted by A Red Panda
I hate it when anyone goes "At least you've got X..." I get that it's trying to point out the good things.. but it just invalidates the way that I feel. It's like "Hey, you shouldn't feel this way because you've got X". It just makes me angry ..."
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So true. It doesn't matter what good things you have: friends, your health, a nice house, posessions.... What I hear them saying is: "You ungrateful sod for feeling bad when you have all that". And that's a direct hit on my self-esteem.
But then, they are trying to help me. They don't know that I take it negatively, but they are trying to be helpful. That is a good and positive thing which does help me.
I guess what I am wondering is: Is it better to have friends who say stuff like that. Or would I rather they didn't try?