"I'd just assume sit there as initiate conversation" -- sorry, it's your therapy, not your therapist's. You can only move ahead by your own work. I didn't figure that out until the end of one session when it felt like the session had been a "waste" and I asked my T whether we hadn't been talking about the "wrong" subject the whole time and she thought about it and agreed. It then dawned on me that there was no one "in charge" like I thought, it was going wherever I was taking it, not where someone "else" was guiding it.