I've been in a relationship for over 3 years. I enjoy sex VERY MUCH!! BUT, I'm not good at initiating it AT ALL. I don't like to, it makes me feel weird, embarrassed and I fear being told 'no' or rejection in general. I'm also not good at showing any sort of intimacy that my partner needs. He likes the hugs and kisses throughout the day, when he returns home, when he leaves for work, cuddling, anything to that nature. What can I do, how do I change these things about myself?

I'm 37, I feel I'm attractive but, yes, not secure with myself, I suffer from eating disorders which I have under control at the moment. I have 3 kids, one in college, one who is currently detained and causes lots of stress and one little guy that is head strong but a good boy.

Any advice or help would be greatly appreciated.