I'm 37 years old, mother of 3 and divorced although been in a relationship for over 3 years. I've always had a problem with intimacy and being a loving partner. I'm not a hugs and kisses person, I'm not good at giving encouragement or saying thank you or showing affection or appreciation. My partner craves these things and I am able to do them for my children. I want to be able to initiate sex with my partner and fear rejection, I want to be able to put on lingerie and feel embarrassement, I want to know how to put together a romantic evening together after the kids go to bed, I want to know how to feel good about me and the way I look....the list could go on and on and I really need suggestions because I'm tired of therapy and the internet, well, I think I've read almost everything so now I'm turning to chat rooms.