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Originally Posted by Nerak67
I just sent him a pathetic needy email this morning (after session last night). I didn't really ask anything of him just babbled about how hopeless I feel and that I think he doesn't like me anymore. I so wanted to have a mature adult to adult relationship this time but here I am being the pathetic needy 5 year old again.
This t is straight cbt so he's not going to get into dealing with the whole relationship dynamic and all of that stuff.
He hasn't responded.
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I know that CBT can help a lot with the way you think, but I'm not sure it can help you to deal with the 5 year old child inside of you. The reason you're doing it again is because you have unmet needs from the past and you're going to keep repeating this pattern until you somehow work through it.
I'm telling you this because I know how it is! I keep repeating my pattern from one T to another. It makes sense because I don't know how to satisfy those needs. They are NOT pathetic. Your 5 year old part is just that, a child. She wants what she wants. The adult part of you can learn how to comfort and satisfy that child. Did you do any of that kind of work with your previous T? I would suggest asking your new T how CBT is going to help you with this pattern--or won't it? I am in DBT, and it is helpful, so CBT probably can get at the twisted thinking you have about yourself, if your T is competent.
