Hi Suzy:
I'm not exactly in the same boat, but I kind of agree that while a book can help immensely, it wouldn't be as effective (for me) as therapy. Intellectually, I "get" it, too, but a) I've learned that I'm not nearly as objective with myself as my ego leads me to believe, and b) there is a difference between the "right" way to be and the "realistic" way to be. For these two reasons, I have no plans to ever ditch my T. Those are the two things that for me are irreplaceable by a book.

I'm sure that the book will be helpful, though, so I would encourage you to keep at it!