I am having a lot of family problems lately.

This has been going on for over a year now, though, and I don't know what to do.

My husband has become very aggressive, angry, and seemingly depressed and anxious, although he has never talked to a doctor.

He is very negative, hopeless about his future and lazy, too. He gets very angry and anxious in public situations like in grocery stores.

His yelling and aggression has also been out of control for a while and I'm at my wit's end.

Today, he exhibited a classic episode--we got into a little disagreement and started arguing, and as I sat there, eating my dinner and conversing with him, he got up, slapped the food out of my hand, pushed a neighboring chair over and pushed everything off the table. He came at me and I closed my eyes and flinched. He likes to charge at me to intimidate me.

Most of the time, his tactics are purely intimidation, but the whole attitude he exudes day after day is really making me frustrated and disengaged in the relationship.

Despite my bipolar disorder, I am doing very well at work, and I'm positive and hopeful and I think the future has great things in store for me. I seem to rise above my diagnosis most of the time.

It is quite a contrast with my husband that walks around like there is a constant cloud over his head. I would have never thought he was the one that seemed more out of control than me.

I have tried to discuss with him that he talk to a doctor or even another family member--there is always an excuse. He doesn't want to do any of that and frankly I'm tired of the excuses. I work to get help every single day for myself and my personal issues. Why can't he?

Even more frustrating for me, he doesn't spend extended time with anyone else except me. He is fantastic at appearing like the calm, cool guy for a few hours, but when he's home "safe" with me, he acts like a tyrant.

What do I do? He refuses to get himself checked out or talk to anyone, and he doesn't want me to talk to anyone to get support/help because he doesn't want anyone to know. It's frustrating because I'm the only one dealing with this all the time.

It is really straining our relationship. He is acting very strange. I don't like living with an aggressive, miserable person.

Any advice?