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Originally Posted by stopdog
This is just a suggestion - but if the therapist is helping you with self image/esteem/compassion - then perhaps this could be a time to practice that. Instead of all the "I stink" and so forth sorts of things you are writing on here, what if you tried instead to look at it differently and then focussed on not doing the thing rather than the beating up of yourself for having done it and almost, seemingly, dooming yourself to repetition. This is probably not easy, but the "I stink" think can come all too easy, and although it appears all tough and so forth, if it is a usual pattern, then it is more comfortable than focusing on the other parts. This is just my thought, it could be wrong.
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Yes, it is a big issue that I am so harsh on myself. You are very right. I need to look at that more.
My t responded to an email about something more light hearted but made no mention of my main issue. I have noticed that he will respond to certain things but never to anything that just requires reassurance or comforting. I think there is some reason for that and it isn't just that he is cold. Maybe he doesn't want to reinforce the neediness. I'm not sure. We'll see what he says about Wednesday if I make it that long.
Anyway, thanks for all the replies to my little problem that I seem to make into a huge trauma.