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As is the case with all of us, to some extent or another, how we perceive the world around us can affect our mood (and even reveal how we perceive ourselves). If you perceive others' shortcomings as a deal breaker, then I can see how it would end up making you feel lonely. But just because people disappoint doesn't mean they're 'bad' or 'less than' -if you jump to that conclusion before giving yourself a chance to get to know them and them a chance to reveal their true selves to you, then I'm afraid you will be often disappointed. It's a truism, maybe, but perhaps the more you accept and can not judge yourself for your own shortcomings and failings, not living up to your own standards at times, maybe it will become easier to accept and have compassion for others' shortcomings. We all suffer, no doubt, at least we're in the same boat when it comes to that!
As someone else said, how we perceive things can radically affect our mood and how we relate to others. It seems you've addressed 'disappointment' in therapy, but it's a really big topic -- maybe you can explore more what this means to you (disappointment means different things to different people) and why it causes so much pain and for you to feel so alienated from others.
It's a long process, but I think exploring this in therapy, over time, may help a lot. It's awful to feel so isolated!
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