Hi ptangptang,

From my perspective it sounds like what you've experienced is a homophobic individual. I don't really label myself bisexual or lesbian because I'm not sure which box I fit into and indeed, whether I have to fit into one. However to provide some background to what I'm going to say, I am very feminine looking (no one has ever made an assumption) and have been in relationships with both genders and am currently in what I would perceive to be my first 'serious' relationship with another woman.

So, that said, if someone WAS to have made the same assumption about me as it sounds this man from the camera club has made about you- and made the same comments- I would have felt silently upset and challenged him by asking him what he meant by his comments.

I know it will seem a cliched response for me to say to you that it doesn't matter what he thinks about your sexuality, but it's true. From my own experience and through the experience of speaking to others, I have come to believe that sexuality really is on a spectrum. It's a sliding scale of desires and feelings, not three boxes for straight, gay and bi. It's impossible to tell you whether you come across as gay from what you've written and somebody else's judgement doesn't matter.

What does matter however is that he has hurt your feelings and made comments that are unacceptable.