I don't think that "normal" can explain families...Coming from a totally abusive chidhood in every way, and then a 20 year abusive marriage, I have learned what is a "healthy and functioning family..Me and my 5 children have learned to relate in a sincerely healthy way...We do not judge nor criticize each other harshly..we depend upon each other to encourage ourselves when we feel low or confused...there is always love, hugs, compassion, understanding, empathy and devotion...We stand together in unity always..We cherish each other and do not allow the negative words of others to affect our family...We see the good and positive in each other, and accept the negative, though always praying...We love each other and will defend each other till the very end..We listen to each other without no standards...A healthy family is productive, supportive, loving, encouraging, and trusting...there is safety in a healthy family to allow you to be who you truly are...to accept and love you without condition..sadly, most families are not like this...hurting people, hurt other hurting people...a healthy family acknowledges the hurt that it has caused...it never minimizes nor demeans it...it makes things right...