nikki, I don't know what the answer is. I just want you to know you are not alone. I struggle with this very much. My H (hubby) is the same way and I am not a physical type of person. It does cause us some issues. We have been married 19 years and have 3 kids. It is a constant struggle to let him hug me, kiss me, or touch me in sexual ways.

Do you have a T. (therapist) I am pretty sure mine comes form an abusive past. I have been working on this for a year and a half with my current T. It is slowly improving. But it has taken alot of work to see why this is happening. Good luck.