I agree with patagonia, Could you two watch the movies together. My H and I really did use porn as a learning tool. We both have only had one partner before each other. We watched it together he told me find something u like and show it to me, and I'll find something I like and show it to you. It was so SO much easier then trying to explain.
There are female friendly sites out there, meaning they contain a more gentle by nature theme. To me the female friendly sites are more realistic. Just an option. Generally speaking though porn is not advised to the average couple. And certinly not as a teaching tool. On that same note there are teaching sites within porn so that might be something to look into.