Hi, Calicoe99, and welcome to Psych Central! To me it sounds like you have stirred up some negative feelings with her. Who knows, maybe she had some similar experience or was abused as a child or whatever. Do NOT ask her, though. You aren't her therapist.

Yes, it would have been good had you stopped when she asked you to. Indeed, I can understand how she would feel "violated" because she asked you to stop doing something--and you didn't, symbolic of rape, in a sense.

I suggest you give her some space. Sometimes we scare people by revealing very personal things too fast too soon. But what is done is done. I also suggest you not bring it up to her in any detail, though. Just try to be nice. And apologize briefly as in, "I'm so sorry I didn't respect your boundaries." Then the ball will be in her court.

Let's see what other folks here might have to say about it.