Wait a minute, this is all about his control issues over you, it has NO impact whatsoever on him, no restrictions or effects on him. He is giving up nothing, you and your children are.

How is this a helpful thing ? Just catering to his control issues. And his emotional abuse of you and your children, period.

Do not be an enabler, just say no, don't explain, just say no. That is all abusers can understand, yes, you can do this and abuse me, or no, you may not do this to me and I regain control of my life.