Dakota, yes this is about control. It is because he is jealous of the computer. He is jealous of my animals as well. Anything that takes time away from him. Things have gotten better then they were. I used to not be able to use the phone once he got home. No incoming or out going calls. I was not able to go to the convenience store a mile away, or to the mail box, with out him asking where are you going. So as much as things suck, they are not as bad as they once were. I have learned to say I am going to the store brb, or I just go to the mail box. He did give me a cell phone and he keeps pretty tight tabs on me. Last week he called a 1:03 to see "How was T, what did u discuss." My appointment was over at 1:00. He gave me 3 min to get to the car. I didn't call him back right away, when I did he wanted to know if I was mad at him. I didn't call right away. I don't like to talk and drive at the same time.

To answer your question He wants the computer off for his own selfish desires. He is not here so much of the time but that doesn't matter . The fact that I am talking to people and not him bothers him.