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Originally Posted by IndieVisible
Here's what I do when I find I am starting to beat myself up. I ask myself WHY? Why am I being so critical of myself? What is it I feel that moment and why? What is the real problem or fear? Once I can focus on the actual reason I can see how insignificant it really is. For example, there are many things I am not in control of, so why beat myself up for any of those things? Embarrassment? For what? For being human? For having emotions? For making a mistake? Who doesn't? Now I realize this all sounds so easy now at this moment and when the actual moment happens it's a different story. Just remember to begin by asking your self WHY?
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Thanks. I understand what you're saying. I do try to reason with myself. I know the rumination is ridiculous over something that gets forgotten as insignificant by the other person. Rationalizing doesn't seem to work.
I think that yes, sometimes I don't forgive myself for just being human. But the idea that I caused someone I like distress of any kind is nearly intolerable for me. I've talked to my therp about it but I really haven't been given any answers.