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Originally Posted by reesecups
Thanks. I understand what you're saying. I do try to reason with myself. I know the rumination is ridiculous over something that gets forgotten as insignificant by the other person. Rationalizing doesn't seem to work.
I think that yes, sometimes I don't forgive myself for just being human. But the idea that I caused someone I like distress of any kind is nearly intolerable for me. I've talked to my therp about it but I really haven't been given any answers.
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Do you ask yourself why there seems to be such a paramount need for you to forgive yourself? the answer often surprises me! it's always for selfish reasons. because I feel bad, because I want to feel better. Because I feel guilt or the cause and if I don't do any thing to remedy this I will just feel sorry for myself and feel bad or hate myself. I can't tell you enough I understand how difficult it is to come to this realization, but when I am able to and when I can see it for what it really is, it becomes easier for me to dismiss. Try to get down to the actual bottom line reason why you feel the way you feel and why it makes a difference! WHY is the key!