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Originally Posted by innocentjoy
My problem is that when I can understand a person's intentions, or when I know that what they're communicating is not what they mean, I tend to give them too much space to do what they feel, instead of validating that my concerns are important as well. If someone doesn't mean to be cruel, then they can't be actually cruel, it's my fault for feeling that way. Something that was forced into my head a few too many times when I was much too young  |
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I'm like that too. With my current unwanted house-guest situation (not sure if I wrote about that in your other thread but it's been my topic of the day for about two weeks haha)... I finally accepted that yes, he DID in fact manipulate and lie to me. He asked to come here to look for work... and then hasn't looked for work and doesn't plan to and plans to only stay for a visit. I would have said no to having a visitor. So while I can accept that he chose to decieve me... I can't accept in my head that he did it on purpose. It just won't work.
So it seems like you and I were basically trained in the same way.
And that Lucy and Henrietta in particular (from who I know of) have been some of the ones who have chosen to rebel against that training. Can I just say that I am not surprised that they are both younger? I bet they noticed the injustice of not being allowed to express yourself and they refused to give that up - even though as you grew up most of you did comply with what was expected of you.
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