Sadly I have experienced every single one of these on the receiving end intermittently for five years after my spouse's (now separated) meds were changed. I know she is ill and not at fault. But like alcoholism, her MI tells her that she is OK, that I'm the one who is sick and not loving and understanding enough. Wish I could have found the converse to this article, i.e. what a spouse/SO should do when there is projecting, splitting, cutting, flash backs, recklessness, impulsiveness, rage, ad hom attacks, idealization, etc... it is so very very hard to witness and to experience acts of love, kindness, and understanding get so utterly and totally confused or twisted, forgotten or ignored like they never happened.