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Old Oct 20, 2013, 10:15 AM
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It's normal to have twinges of wanting children/become pregnant.

You are still, just 24. You have time to sort through what these desires mean for you, and can still decide if you really want one. I was 28, when I had my first child.

Used to think, I didn't want kids, at the same time, kids would gravitate towards me. Holding a newborn, before having my own, scared the heck out of me.

I am more familiar with biological clock talk, from women in their mid-to-late 30's, not 24. Women in their 40's, these days, have babies.

Now that you are trying to sort through where all these feelings are coming from, it's a good time, as any, to really think, if motherhood is something that you really want in life.

It's not even remotely easy. Even mother's who have a natural inclination, have a tough time. Then there's all these societal pressures, knowing the right and 'wrong' ways to discipline. Cost of diapers and day care or stay at home care, and on and on. How well do you handle, exhaustion, isolation, interruptions, what if there's a developmental delay or such, a birth defect. Having to put your own needs behind theirs? How to handle the begging and whining of the kids, as they get older? What if they break you new tv screen?(happened to my cousin), what if you need an emergency C-section? What about gestational diabetes, high blood pressure? What if you are bed bound during the last stages?
Ever been puked up on? Along with all other bodily movements?

And yes, what about post-partum depression?