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Old Oct 20, 2013, 10:52 AM
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Originally Posted by hankster View Post
"I feel like it's my fault you're getting a divorce"? I think that's a very important thing to tell your t! Why in the world would you hold that back?? Why would you advise someone to hold that back? I'm seeing stars here.
Thanks, hankster. I guess because I "know" it's not true, and it's just a "part" of me who thinks that way. I'm afraid that part just wants to confess to T so she can get comforted. But I'm NOT supposed to figure it out, so you're correct. It's better just to tell her, to get it out of my system. It's also good for me to practice comforting that part myself. I can do both--a skill from DBT. Dialectics.

The transference part may be something T can help me figure out. If there is any, to do with my family. I'm not sure. I seem to block that out, so maybe there IS something I'm avoiding.