Surprised I agree with you, I bet. Ah, the money. Yes, "there's the rub". I can't argue with the fact that we pay our Ts or we wouldn't have the relationship in the first place.

But there's more to it than that. You can pay someone and still have a relationship with them. I'm suddenly remembering the cleaning lady my Mom used to have when I was little. I don't think she ever referred to her as "the cleaning lady", but by her name which was something like "Warsella" I think. She was more like a member of the family though she didn't live with us, and my Mom definitely paid her. She cared about us, and my Mom cared about her and her family. She used to give her our outgrown clothes for her family. She knew about Warsella's kids and what was going on in her life. Warsella probably baby-sat for me sometimes, too. I haven't thought about her in years but the warm glow in my heart when I do tells me this was a "real relationship" though money was involved.