I'm so sorry this happened to you - you must feel really betrayed as you probably really enjoyed the band. Now it is all different. I would tell someone about what happened - otherwise it will cause you greater distress by keeping a secret. You probably won't enjoy the concerts as much if at all as one of the band players has turned out to be a creep of the highest magnatude.

I don't think you asked for this or allowed for it to happen AT ALL. Please don't think that you had this coming or anything like that. The person who molested you is the person who did wrong - and don't kid yourself, that creep knows full well that what he did was WRONG. That person is a coward.

I don't know what your relationship is with your husband, but perhaps you can confide in him. He might just surprise you and provide you with loving understanding. To keep this secret from him might impact your relationship with him. I don't know as I don't know how things are between you and your husband - only you know best. I just know that I would tell my husband - because this is one secret that I would not want between us. Maybe that creep needs to be confronted by an outraged husband - the little creep would probably wet his pants. Little creep finds it easier to molest others who are not aware (sleeping - drinking doesn't give anyone permission to molest you) than to deal with an equal. If he was a person of integrity, he would not have done what he did.

I'm guessing that you will probably not want to attend any band concerts anymore - and who would blame you - however, your friends will wonder why. If they are true friends, they will support you. You might not be the only one this creep has done this to - another friend might be next.

I am so sorry this happend - you did not deserve this at all. I think the creepy band player owes you an apology and should be outed as the creep he is.

I hope you feel better soon - and can talk to someone about what happened to you. Please don't keep it a secret inside you as it will fester. This is not a secret to keep - you did not deserve this.