You didn't ask for it and you weren't unfaithful to your husband! That guy tried to take advantage of you and the fact that you weren't completely in all your faculties!

My suggestion would be to hold off telling anyone in 3D until you calm down some. I'd think twice about telling your husband if you think he will react agressively. You don't need more trouble!

I'd think long and hard about how "the group" will react if you say anything to them. Just let the guy know that it will NEVER happen again because you won't allow it and you will do whatever it takes to stop him. Threaten him with factual legal action if you have to, but inform yourself about what you can do and make it stick!

Don't beat yourself up about it, Des. You stopped him! Under your clothes or over your clothes, he touched you inappropriately!